When It Feels Like Too Much To Carry Alone
Grief isn't just sadness. It's the heaviness in your chest when you wake up. It's feeling like you're moving through fog while everyone else seems fine. It's wondering if you're allowed to grieve this much or this way, especially when the world hasn't always made space for your full story.
You might be grieving a person, a relationship, a version of yourself, or a future you thought you'd have. Your grief includes layers that mainstream spaces don't acknowledge: chosen family, community losses, identities that aren't validated, the weight of living at the margins, and loss that gets minimized when it doesn't match what others expect.
Why Grief Feels So Complicated
Grief isn't a straight line. It never has been. But when your identity or community has been marginalized, grief often comes with extra weight. Maybe your loss isn't acknowledged. Maybe you're navigating cultural expectations that don't match what you actually feel. Or maybe you're tired of explaining yourself while trying to just survive the pain.
There's nothing wrong with you. Grief is hard enough without having to filter it through what others think you should feel or how you should heal.
How We'll Work Together
Grief counselling should feel like sitting with someone who gets it, not someone lecturing you about stages or timelines.
Our work together is collaborative. You lead, I move alongside you. We'll create a space where you can be messy, honest, and fully yourself. I won't rush you or tell you how to grieve "correctly." Instead, I'll offer gentle tools, reflections, and questions when they feel useful, and we'll move at your pace.
This is about deep listening. About honouring what you're experiencing without judgment. About making room for the parts of your grief that are cultural, spiritual, relational, or complicated in ways only you understand.
What to Expect in
Our Sessions
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A space that's yours. No code-switching, no explaining yourself, no apologizing for your emotions.
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Permission to grieve your way. Whether that's crying, sitting in silence, feeling angry, or laughing at memories—it all belongs here.
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Exploration, not prescription. We'll explore what grief means for you, what helps you feel steadied, and how to honour your loss while still living.
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Cultural and identity awareness. Your background, beliefs, and community matter. I'll respect the fullness of who you are.
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Tools when you're ready. Coping strategies, meaning-making practices, and ways to carry your loss forward. Everything is an invitation. Nothing is mandatory.
This isn't about "getting over" anything. It's about finding your way through, at your own pace, with support that actually sees you.
FAQ
How do I know if I need grief counselling?
If loss is affecting your daily life, your relationships, or how you see yourself. If you just feel like you need someone to talk to who understands, that's reason enough. You don't need to hit some threshold of "bad enough." If you're wondering whether you should reach out, that wondering itself is often a sign that support could help.
Will you understand my specific cultural or identity experience?
I'm committed to honoring your full identity and the cultural context of your grief. While I can't know everything about every experience, I approach our work with humility, respect, and ongoing learning. You won't have to educate me on basic identity concepts, and you'll never have to shrink parts of yourself to fit into the room.
What if I'm not grieving a death?
Grief shows up for so many kinds of loss—relationships ending, transitions, dreams that didn't happen, versions of yourself you've outgrown, community ruptures, or even collective grief. All of it counts. All of it deserves space.
How long does grief counselling take?
There's no timeline. Some people find a few sessions helpful; others work with me for months or longer. We'll check in regularly about what feels right for you. You're in control of how long we work together.