What grief can look like
Grief doesn’t always look like crying. It can show up as:
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Exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix
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Anger at the doctors, the family, the person who died, or yourself
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Forgetting simple things, or feeling too tired to make even small decisions
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Emotional numbness
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Guilt about what you said, what you didn’t say, or how you feel when a good moment comes
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A sudden wave in the middle of an ordinary day
If any of this sounds familiar, nothing is wrong with you. This is what loving someone and losing them can do.
I help you move through loss
I'm Eliezer Moreno, MSW, RSW. I’ve spent more than 15 years in palliative care, end-of-life work, and bereavement support, and I still work alongside families in palliative care today. That means I’m comfortable with the losses other people find hard to hear about.
The death of a partner, parent, sibling, or friend. Including the quiet, everyday absence that shows up months or years later.
The death of a child. A loss that changes everything for you and for the people around you.
Sudden or traumatic death. An accident, a suicide, an overdose, or a death you weren’t there for. If the memories keep replaying or the questions won’t stop, you can bring them here.
Loss after medical assistance in dying (MAID). Grief that can carry mixed and complicated feelings.
Grief before the death. Caring for someone who is dying, or living with a diagnosis, can bring loss long before the end.
Grief others don’t always understand. A complicated relationship, a loss people around you don’t acknowledge, church hurt, or a shift in your faith.
You don’t need to fit your loss into a category to reach out.
What to Expect in
Our Sessions
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Some sessions are mostly talking. You tell the story of the person, the death, or the last few weeks, as much or as little as you like. Other sessions are about slowing down and noticing what’s coming up in your body and your day.
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I’m trained in Brainspotting, a trauma-informed approach that I offer when a loss feels stuck, keeps replaying, or lives more in your body than in words. It’s always your choice, and we only use it if it feels right to you.
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Along the way, I’ll offer reflections and practical tools for the hardest moments: the anniversaries, the holidays, the Sunday nights. We’ll also find ways to keep your connection with them, through rituals, stories, or small habits that feel like theirs.
Creating a life that matters to you
A day can come when you pull out their favourite mug and it feels like a gift instead of a wound. When you hear their song in the car and turn it up. When their still birthday hurts, and you also spend it doing something they would have loved.
Grief may always be part of your story. It doesn’t have to be all of it.
I help people move through grief and build a life that matters to them without letting go of the person they love.
Format: Individual, couples, and family sessions
Where: Coquitlam, Surrey, the Tri-Cities, Greater Vancouver, and online across BC
Length: 50 minutes
Fees: $165 individual, $185 couples and families
First step: a free 15-minute consult by phone or video
FAQ
How do I know if I need grief counselling?
If loss is affecting your daily life, your relationships, or how you see yourself. If you just feel like you need someone to talk to who understands, that's reason enough. You don't need to hit some threshold of "bad enough." If you're wondering whether you should reach out, that wondering itself is often a sign that support could help.
Will you understand my specific cultural or identity experience?
I'm committed to honoring your full identity and the cultural context of your grief. While I can't know everything about every experience, I approach our work with humility, respect, and ongoing learning. You won't have to educate me on basic identity concepts, and you'll never have to shrink parts of yourself to fit into the room.
What if I'm not grieving a death?
Grief shows up for so many kinds of loss—relationships ending, transitions, dreams that didn't happen, versions of yourself you've outgrown, community ruptures, or even collective grief. All of it counts. All of it deserves space.
How long does grief counselling take?
There's no timeline. Some people find a few sessions helpful; others work with me for months or longer. We'll check in regularly about what feels right for you. You're in control of how long we work together.